LOVE IS NOT CONTROLLING

I know God is speaking to somebody about this issue. I may just be confirming what He has been telling you. It will be painful to make a wreck of your emotional self because you desperately want this relationship to work. There are signs already that he is a Control Frick but you are in love with him and he seems a nice guy (on a good day). That is who he is, and that is the man you are about to spend the rest of your life with.
1Corinthians 13:5 says: love " does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil."
Controllers are people whose main relationship technique is to control others. Through their forceful personalities, they get their ways and get what they want. They are often times fulfilled and you are not. When you marry such an individual, even in intimacy, he gets sexual fulfilment and can't be bothered whether you do or you don't. You can simply be raped emotionally and sexually by a controller. He gets it when he wants it, it is his way or no way.
Such men never take responsibilities or accept wrongs. You dear not even charge them with any wrong. Even for his obvious wrongs, he'll blame you, blame circumstances or he passes the blame to other people. Always on the defensive. Many women who fell for such men are unable to reach their full potentials in life. A controlling husband will never, under his watch, allow you to rise above him. He can never be Christlike. He is full of self.
Controllers are very good at spotting desperation, this they use to their own advantage.
God is definitely against oppression. The man with an oppressive spirit does not know the love of God and will never be able to give what he doesn't have.
A man can lead/control his family in a loving way. That is why great emphasis is being  laid on marrying a man who has surrendered his life to Christ. This type of man is able to lead his family in the love of God, because he has known the God of love. (1John 4:7-8)
When a man obeys God by loving his wife, It becomes automatically easy for the woman to respect her man. The natural instinct in the woman would be to react to a controlling husband. In reacting, respect is thrown into the wind and that will be followed with a sharp decline in their relationship. However, just when it is easy for a man to move-out and move-on, women are often left with the responsibilities of caring and nurturing the children.
In God's leadership style, leading is meant to be an act of love towards those being led and this is why He commanded the men to love their wives and women to submit/respect their husbands. Jesus said, of leadership role, ".............if you want to be a leader, you must first be slaves, become servants."(Matt. 20:25-28)
There is already enough stress in the world, but to put up with a controlling or abusive husband will place undue pressure on you and and your family.
Marriage is good and very sweet too. This I can tell you for sure. I will choose my husband again and again and again. Even when it is not necessary, he is always making sure we are a part of every decision in the family. Oh yes! I give him credit for that.
Ladies, honestly, you all deserve the best. You are precious in His sight. You cost God His only Son. Your worth is far more than rubies. When a man finds you, he gets God's favour. That's how much you're worth. Begging him to marry you and putting up with all his controlling tactics just so you are married is like mortgaging your future and that of your children.
If that man you are with at the moment fits perfectly into this description, its high time you got back into your room, shut the door behind you and dial heaven using the name of God's Son Jesus to plead your case. God is sure to show up for you with a godly, loving and respectable man.
You are blessed.