“…….One thing led to the other and he took advantage of
me.” This was Betsy’s last statement and
she began to cry. It was winter of 2011 when this happened and now she is a
single mum to four-month old Jessica. The last time she ever set her eyes on Mark
was on Christmas day when she told him she was pregnant. He has not even seen
his daughter.
Betsy, 36, was at home, alone on this very cold evening and
she began to have this snugly feeling. It came like a surge which left her very
desperate for a cuddle up. Her phone
rang while she was making herself a cup of tea. She was unsure whether to
return this call or not. She concluded it would be a good idea to return this
call and perhaps they could spend sometime together. Mark had met Betsy barely
six weeks but has been calling and texting ever since.
My response to Betsy was that the snugly feeling was not the
problem but her response to the feeling. God created us and gave us emotions.
This is part of who we are as human beings. Our spirit soul and body all engage
our emotions to reflect the state of our mind but our emotions in themselves
are not meant to control these components of our being. Unfortunately, what obtains most of the time
is the reverse. We have given the reins of our being unto our emotions and do
whatever it dictates to us.
As adult single, I noticed whenever I had these feelings,
some guy, somewhere just shows up. What makes it happen this way I cannot
understand, all I knew was that I would be totally and solely responsible for
whatever I choose to do when this aspect of my emotions come calling. Unfortunately
I am not the only one that will be affected by the consequences of my rash
decision. In Betsy’s case, an innocent child has been denied the joy of
fatherly love because of my choice.
No matter
how clear the Scripture is on God's precepts regarding sexuality, no matter how
convincing the argument that sexual immorality is inconsistent with God's
character and His will, sadly, many people will not respond by changing their
sexual behaviour. Most of us in today's culture care less about the right and
wrong of our actions than we do about fulfilling our craving for love and
attention
Sex has become so casual everyone talks about it even more
than we talk about the weather. You can hardly turn on the TV, see a movie, or listen to the
radio without finding references to it. Not only is our culture talking about
sex, it seems that everybody is doing it.
The biblical boundaries for sex -
God's instruction to reserve physical intimacy for marriage have been set aside, disregarded as old fashioned and
culturally "out of step."
Many of us reason that time has
changed and that what works for each individual is different. As a Christian,
believer in Jesus Christ, what works for you must align with scripture.
Biblical precept
of sex is that when it is experienced outside marriage it becomes a sin called
immorality. (1 Thess. 4:3)
God’s principle
is that we His children should flee from sexual immorality. (1 Cor. 6:18)
God wants
us to personally commit this part of our being unto Him to help us keep pure.
He offered to help when we become faithless and burning out. (2 Tim. 2:13).
Josh
McDowell said God’s intention when he commanded sexual purity was to
protect our feelings and to do us good. He wanted to protect us from guilt and
from unwanted pregnancies and even possible murder in abortion. He seeks to
protect us also from emotional distress.
Our
obedience to a life of purity provides peace with God and peace of mind.
Provides trust with future spouse and healthy atmosphere for child rearing. Our
obedience also provides spiritual reward for true intimacy when we eventually get
married.
God is not
unsympathetic, (Hebrew 4:14-16). Every "thou shalt not" in the Bible
is given to protect us and provide for our good; nowhere is that more clear
than in His precept to remain sexually pure. And when we diligently follow the
Lord's commands in all areas of our lives, we will find that we are living
under the protection of his loving hand and enjoying the immeasurable pleasures
of an intimate relationship with him. All other pleasurable experience
He will not deny us.
Think about
it my beloved Sister.
God bless
you.
