Times when we've had to let go of a relationship that refused to be defined, the first assumption we make is that something was probably wrong with us and the man may have respected us enough and does not want to discuss it, hence the dragging of feet.
Ladies! No, not all times. Some men are just not ready to commit.
Willingness to commit has nothing to do with age or maturity, but more of the attitude of heart. Some men enter into relationship, knowing they are not willing to be committed and possibly not ready for marriage but will lead women on and then pull out gradually leaving the woman to think she's done something wrong or that she's not worth it.
Jacob in the Bible, worked seven years to marry the woman he loved, he was conned on the wedding night and got the wrong bride. He didn't put Leah away but kept her, worked another seven years for Racheal, the love of his life. The point is Jacob was prepared and ready. Circumstances didn't change him. His attitude of heart was that of respect, show of maturity and honour for the dignity of womanhood.
Identify a loser before you involve yourself too deeply. Do not allow vision-less men to block your sight, they will drag you into the ditch of pain, leave you there and they walk on. You will be left to cry out for help, both for physical and emotional injury they may have caused. Some men are enjoying the single life so much they love it with all the perks of it. They never grow up. How do you explain a 49year old single man who is still not ready to settle down and be committed? You want to imagine how many women such men would have wounded along the way back. You shouldn't be the next in line. You musn't be added to that statistics.
You have no business waiting for a man for over a year to propose and he is not. If he is a confirmed 'Bachelor' or a 'Player', even if he is in the church, stay away from him. Propose a withdrawal from him to yourself, accept it and fast-forward your journey to the next level that your Father in heaven is waiting to take you.
A god-fearing, serious minded man will give you clue to where a friendship is heading even before he puts words into it. The moment you start to wait day after day, night after night and nothing comes from him, you ask and he says he needs more time, it high time you checked out of that relationship. Such men are like taxis without tyres; no matter how much you flag down, they are not going any where.
Keep walking on, God is sending the man your way. Leave that bus stop, walk further with God and THE MAN will pick you up and take you to his destination immediately. You aren't far from there anymore, just a little while, and you are walking the aisle.
Loving you all Sisters. Precious are you in HIM.
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