ALL I NEEDED WAS A CUDDLE

“…….One thing led to the other and he took advantage of me.”  This was Betsy’s last statement and she began to cry. It was winter of 2011 when this happened and now she is a single mum to four-month old Jessica. The last time she ever set her eyes on Mark was on Christmas day when she told him she was pregnant. He has not even seen his daughter.

Betsy, 36, was at home, alone on this very cold evening and she began to have this snugly feeling. It came like a surge which left her very desperate for a cuddle up.  Her phone rang while she was making herself a cup of tea. She was unsure whether to return this call or not. She concluded it would be a good idea to return this call and perhaps they could spend sometime together. Mark had met Betsy barely six weeks but has been calling and texting ever since.

My response to Betsy was that the snugly feeling was not the problem but her response to the feeling. God created us and gave us emotions. This is part of who we are as human beings. Our spirit soul and body all engage our emotions to reflect the state of our mind but our emotions in themselves are not meant to control these components of our being.  Unfortunately, what obtains most of the time is the reverse. We have given the reins of our being unto our emotions and do whatever it dictates to us.

As adult single, I noticed whenever I had these feelings, some guy, somewhere just shows up. What makes it happen this way I cannot understand, all I knew was that I would be totally and solely responsible for whatever I choose to do when this aspect of my emotions come calling. Unfortunately I am not the only one that will be affected by the consequences of my rash decision. In Betsy’s case, an innocent child has been denied the joy of fatherly love because of my choice.

No matter how clear the Scripture is on God's precepts regarding sexuality, no matter how convincing the argument that sexual immorality is inconsistent with God's character and His will, sadly, many people will not respond by changing their sexual behaviour. Most of us in today's culture care less about the right and wrong of our actions than we do about fulfilling our craving for love and attention

Sex has become so casual everyone talks about it even more than we talk about the weather. You can hardly turn on the TV, see a movie, or listen to the radio without finding references to it. Not only is our culture talking about sex, it seems that everybody is doing it. 

The biblical boundaries for sex - God's instruction to reserve physical intimacy for marriage have been set aside, disregarded as old fashioned and culturally "out of step." 

Many of us reason that time has changed and that what works for each individual is different. As a Christian, believer in Jesus Christ, what works for you must align with scripture.

Biblical precept of sex is that when it is experienced outside marriage it becomes a sin called immorality. (1 Thess. 4:3)

God’s principle is that we His children should flee from sexual immorality. (1 Cor. 6:18)

God wants us to personally commit this part of our being unto Him to help us keep pure. He offered to help when we become faithless and burning out. (2 Tim. 2:13).

Josh McDowell said God’s intention when he commanded sexual purity was to protect our feelings and to do us good. He wanted to protect us from guilt and from unwanted pregnancies and even possible murder in abortion. He seeks to protect us also from emotional distress.

Our obedience to a life of purity provides peace with God and peace of mind. Provides trust with future spouse and healthy atmosphere for child rearing. Our obedience also provides spiritual reward for true intimacy when we eventually get married.

God is not unsympathetic, (Hebrew 4:14-16). Every "thou shalt not" in the Bible is given to protect us and provide for our good; nowhere is that more clear than in His precept to remain sexually pure. And when we diligently follow the Lord's commands in all areas of our lives, we will find that we are living under the protection of his loving hand and enjoying the immeasurable pleasures of an intimate relationship with him. All other pleasurable experience He will not deny us.

Think about it my beloved Sister.

God bless you.

BEFORE YOU PACK YOUR BAG

NO, it isn't. It is not a must that you spend Christmas in the house of that man or weekend away with that guy who doesn't seem to know what he wants or appears not ready to settle down with you. God's truth already diffuses that myth that you can do just whatever you want with yourself. (Hebrews 13:4).
Well except that you may not mind that it bothers your maker to see you get trashed and being used as part of convenience for a festive period. But that's not who you are. You are a very special treasure, a beautiful work of creation and adorable daughter of the King.
I sat on the WC earlier in the day, getting tissue to clean up and as I dropped it in to press the flush button, I felt the Lord saying to me 'that is how some of my daughters are waiting to be used, drop off and flushed away' . That made me sad I must confess. I stood there and tried to re-process what I've just done and imagining that happening to God's daughter is enough to make the heart of any father bleed, how much more your Lord who died and paid the ransom for your beautiful and precious soul.

My beloved and darling sister, perhaps you are already making plans to go spend Christmas break with that guy, stop! think again. God is speaking ahead because He wants you preserved from being used like a tissue and dumped like a trash. That is not befitting for the daughter of the Most High.
You are a new creation, you are no more in any condemnation. Do not take the liberty of this new life for granted and the grace in vain.
If you truly understand what we are celebrating at Christmas, will Jesus be glad to find you where you are hibernating on HIS special day??? Is your presence in his house and sleeping over honouring to the name of Christ?

Does it really bother you that Jesus calls you special? God never lies. When He declared in Jeremiah 31: 3 saying:
 "......“Yes, I have loved you with an everlasting love;Therefore with loving-kindness I have drawn you.", He meant every bit of what He said.
If it has happened to you before, and you have been healed, it will not be wise to position yourself in that vulnerable situation. Satan has mapped out strategy of mass-molestation and you must not position yourself to be caught as a prey in that trap.

I can understand that waiting on God can be excruciatingly frustrating. Hopefully, your parents, family, and friends aren’t bugging you about how long they are having to wait for you to get married. Hopefully, too, your unsaved friends aren’t badgering you about waiting for marriage at all, as if living in sin is better than being married anyway. You would not have needed to wait nearly this long to to get it right maritally if you could marry just anything to change status.

When we trust that the good things God teaches us in His Word are better than throwing in the towel out of impatience; however, we realize that giving up on Him can only harm us.
Waiting can only be true agony when you don't trust the Person for Whom you're waiting.

Our God is trustworthy, dependable and reliable. He has shown His faithfulness to those who truly waited for Him. He is coming back again soon for those who have endured and suffered long to see His will done in them. You are not a hopeless case, why make yourself look like one. You have a father who never lost a battle, He is fighting on your behalf daily.

If you have to be with family or friends this Christmas, God's joy will fill you to overflowing. You may be a source of blessing to the people around you when you radiate the source of your strength which is God's joy.
May the Lord grant us the grace to wait as long as He would have us wait, and to wait with patience, hope, and even joy.

Spend Christmas around people who will celebrate your presence and not with a user whose sole aim is to dump you even before the new year.
Did I sound a little bit harsh?  I love you so much my Sister but Jesus loves you best, He died for you.

HAS GOD FORGOTTEN ME?

 “………….Fighting temptation to give up virginity... Will be turning 43 in January and this fleshly desire is pressing.  It hasn't been easy having more and more ungodly men to ward off especially when I feel alone... Every where I turn my friends talk about either their work or their husbands or their children or their family... all of which I don't have…………..”

I culled the above paragraph from a mail sent to me today. I could feel a tear dropping down my cheek when the email implied a sense of being forgotten by God. Especially considering this season of the year when the last month is fast approaching and time seems to have gone by with little hope of anything good happening.

The possibility of feeling rejected and abandoned is very high. All the things ever hoped for in 2012 do not seem to have happened and may not happen. More painful it is when ungodly people seem to have what they want and are not burdened with all the yokes we carry.

Every victorious woman of faith goes through times of dryness. These include dryness in every sphere of life. Drought of trustworthy friend and special person to love is the most excruciatingly painful to endure. The sense of being alone and unloved is killing. Most of the time, words alone cannot explain why this should be happening to us at all.

Listen my Sister, the whole of 1Samuel chapter 1 (Please read) focused on the life of a woman called Hannah. She married Elikanah but was unable to have children. So her husband decided to take on another woman as second wife who had sons and daughters. Imagine the pain of being abandoned for a woman who began making babies like a factory and she couldn’t. She must have felt emotionally abandoned by the husband, emotional taunted by the contentious second wife and sadness of heart at the birth of each of the other wife’s children. Verse 6-7 said 

“But her rival wife taunted her cruelly, rubbing it in and never letting her forget that God had not given her children. This went on year after year. Every time she went to the sanctuary of God she could expect to be taunted. Hannah was reduced to tears and had no appetite.”

Most painful was the fact that the Bible said it was God who closed her womb in Verse 5. You may ask why? What has she done? Why did God close her womb? What was the reason? My answer is God has a bigger plan. God had set her up for a show of His glory without her knowing.

Did Hannah fold her arms and rebelled against God? No. Did she try shorter routes? NO. What did she do?

Hannah, driven by desperation, pursued God to a place of reckless prayer and weeping before God. Without dignity or laid down formality she begged God for a son. She knew she had a destiny that must be fulfilled. She realised the fulfilment can only be found in God. She chased after God with all fervent prayer of hope and not of self-pity. She fought to overcome the consuming ache of inadequacy within herself. She was willing to go to war in order to fulfil destiny and not live a waste. All the weapon of prayer she used is still available to us all today.

Did God answer? Yes, He did. God responded to her. God saw her tears, He heard her prayers, and He rewarded her faith because He saw the passion of her broken heart. Hannah’s son, Samuel was the only one we know of in scripture. The other woman and her children were no longer heard of.

My sister, only you can develop within you a very passionate zeal to see your God given destiny come to fulfilment. If you become so lethargic and complacent, if you put on the coat of ‘it doesn’t matter’, if you become less bothered and just carry on living, you will read of others breakthrough and no one is ever able to read yours. 

Allow all the present dryness to drive you towards God the almighty and not away from Him. Away from Him doesn’t cost God anything but may cost you all the fullness of what He has in stock for you.

Like the paragraph of the email I quoted earlier, if that is where you are and you desperately want God to come through for you, inject very serious passion into your prayer when you get to the place of pouring your soul and your tears to Him.

Like Hannah, may you leave your place of prayer in peace. May you find favour before Him and may your petition be granted you. May your countenance be changed from sadness to full joy. May you be fed with the food of rejoicing.

May your glorious end be greater than your former in Jesus name. Amen.

I love you Sister. 

JESUS CARES.

DEAL OR NO DEAL

I stumbled on this gambling game programme on channel 4 (UK). The player had a box of 10pence and £100,000.00 on the last round. He was hoping to gamble on the box with the highest amount of money. Players do not know what is in each box but the cash board tells what is left in this last round. The manager of the game known as ‘The Banker’ was trying to make an offer to this player for a deal of 33,000 pounds.  

Most of the co-gamblers advised him not to deal. The player refused to accept the offer and hence no deal. To close the game, he was left with the only option of opening the box on his table. Whatever was in that box was his money. His box had 10 pence unfortunately.

I am not a gambler. When I heard ‘no deal’ on that last round, I felt immediately this player had lost something. He lost an opportunity for a lump some that could have added value to his pocket. He missed accepting an offer that was far more real than what was to be gambled. There is a huge difference between 10p and £100K. He turned down what could have been a juicy offer of £33k.

I am sure some of us would argue (those who gamble especially) that the player could have also won the 100k. Yes, which is why gambling is not realistic. It is a world of guesses. It was not a guarantee or surety. What was real at the time was the 33k that was offered.

Unfortunately this is what some of us have done or are doing with our life and destiny. We listen to the voices and noises around us shouting at us saying ‘No Deal’; we forget that they will not share with us the consequences of that decision.  We have gambled away our precious life and time with unreliable and undependable men because they appear at that moment full of empty promises and unrealistic hopes. We get swayed and fall for their lies only to realise when it is too late that they are worth less 10pence.  We had probably encountered many who had appeared like that 33k, but we turned them down because we thought we can still get 100k from this other ones that appeared more like it.

The Banker could be likened to God, our heavenly father who new that the box we have on our table and hoping to contain 100k actually had 10pence. We have left God out and ignored His offers because it was a little too small and would not be enough. Those were the men whom he offered but weren’t so trendy, don’t seem to have much money, and not too good looking. We made off with the clean guys in top labels and with some bucks to spend. We got off with them to realise they were empty inside and so full of themselves there was no place in their hearts for us. They are like the 10pence but we thought by our outward calculations were 100k.

There is no point crying over spilled milk. Let the mess be cleared. God is still willing to do a new deal. It is up to us to either deal or no deal

When the creation got messed up badly with sin, God made another offer of a deal. He sent Christ Jesus as ransom. Those who said deal to Jesus are in. Those who said no deal are still out. It is the same with us and how we respond on the matters of life and destiny. Our choices are very vital to our future.

So, making the right choice has both immediate and future benefit if it is in God’s will and aligns with His word and the plans he has offered us “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the LORD, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.” Jeremiah29:11(NKJV).

He said again that “No one’s ever seen or heard anything like this, never so much as imagined anything quite like it—What God has arranged for those who love him. But you’ve seen and heard it because God by his Spirit has brought it all out into the open before you.” 1cor.2:9-10(MSG)

The only major difference in dealing with God is that it is never a gamble, it is a guarantee. It may take a bit of time but still happen in its time, Eccl.3:11 “….He has made everything beautiful in its time….”

So what is God offering today? Here it is: “Forget about what’s happened; don’t keep going over old history. Be alert, be present. I’m about to do something brand-new. It’s bursting out! Don’t you see it? There it is! I’m making a road through the desert, rivers in the bad lands.” Isaiah 43:18-19(MSG)

If you say ‘Deal’, you are in. All you need to do is “Wait on the LORD; be of good courage, And He shall strengthen your heart; Wait, I say, on the LORD!” Psalm 27:14(NKJV)

If you say ‘No Deal’, you can be sure to experience what that gambler experienced, from the hope of a 100k to taking away just 10pence. God forbid; this one life is not meant to be lived on a guess work. Only a deal with God guarantees the best deal of a lifetime.

Be sure to say ‘Deal’ when you are sure your offer is from the banker (God) and you have peace that the offer is rooted in Him. Even when the offer doesn’t contain all you wished for, you can trust the banker (God) to stand surety for you.  All full benefit will be added.  I testify to His faithfulness. I am a living proof. He’s done it for me; He is able to do even more for you.

  “People who don’t know God and the way he works fuss over these things, but you know both God and how He works. Steep your life in God-reality, God-initiative, and God-provisions. Don’t worry about missing out. You’ll find all your everyday human concerns will be met.” Matthew 6:32-33(MSG)

 On behalf of the Ultimate Banker (God) I present again to you the offer of full obedience to Him and His will for you for the benefit of a fulfilled life both here and in eternity

DEAL OR NO DEAL???

GOD UNDERSTANDS

There are times in my life when I am in the middle of seemingly obvious erroneous acts or situations. The most painful bit is when no one seems to understand  or chose not to understand. All every one could do is misunderstand me and judge me instantly without even hearing my point of view/side of the story. My heart bleeds for lack of clarity or peoples misconceptions. Things can be so misconstrued that conclusions are made based on half truth.

These were times I have felt God's love and compassion the most. According to Psalm  139, no part of me is hidden from my heavenly father. So, if no one else knows or cares to know the true and exact picture of things, I am certain, so sure that God knows. When in panic I may have deceived others, HE can not be mocked. HE knows all things. I have made it an habit to run to Him first and quickly too, telling him as it is and allowing Him deal with me before my 'accuser' comes.
By the time Satan get to God to accuse me, God says to Satan, 'I AM FULLY AWARE AND MY DAUGHTER GOT HERE BEFORE YOU, SHE IS NOW FORGIVEN' . Satan falls again while I walk away in victory. This is it my sisters.

God  never misunderstands a situation. He knows about it even before it happened. He knows how you have been struggling and battling with stuffs. He knows how much you have been wrestling with your flesh and your soul. He knows everything.When He has not condemned you, you are not. He does by His HolySpirit convicts us of sin so we can repent. He condemns the sin in us because HE is Holy

I so much love the story of the woman caught in adultery (John 8:1-11). She was caught having sex with a married man. This act at the time attracted the death penalty by stoning.  She was brought to the centre and presented to Jesus to affirm her condemnation. Guess what ? Although everybody else stood in judgement and couldn't wait to bring justice upon her, Jesus looked at her with compassionate understanding and showered her with such great mercy and love.

However, His abounding grace does not provide the platform to sin, but the opportunity to escape His wrath and fierce judgement by repenting and turning away from sin. He told that woman caught in the act to go and sin no more. He further said in Hebrew 10:26-27
" For if we sin willfully after we have received the knowledge of the truth, there no longer remains a sacrifice for sins,  but a certain fearful expectation of judgement, and fiery indignation which will devour the adversaries."

God's love is so rich, so pure and so strong. It is so marvellous and true. Take hold of His mighty love and plunge in by the blood of Jesus. When He pardons, He also forgets because of the blood of His son.

What are you passing through that no one seems to understand but rather all have stood in judgement against you, take it to Jesus, tell Him your story and watch Him pour His love and compassion on you. You too can hear these words

"“Neither do I condemn you; go and sin no more.”

GOD KNOWS WHAT HE IS DOING WITH YOUR LIFE

One of the things that gets me down the most is the accusing voice from Satan charging at God for neglecting me. Whenever I find myself in a mess and nothing seems to be working, prayers seems unanswered and all hope of getting help seems lost, the voice comes. 

Most especially when I see people who are not godly at all having it all together and seems to be enjoying life better than me, that creepy voice roars again. I hear words like: "God doesn't even love you', 'You think God has forgiven you? No; that's Him punishing you', 'God is good to other people except you', 'You are not worthy', 'Why do you take this Christianity too seriously?', 'Take it easy, don't be too hard on yourself'......e.t.c

It took a while for me to realise how much of these lies I had believed, and the effect it has had on my faith and trust in God. I had allowed these lies to ruin the Father-daughter relationship that God through Christ desires to have with me. What it did was take my confidence in God away gradually to the point where I could sense a spiritual disconnect. 
Praise God for the inspired word of the holy scriptures. Words of life, ever faithful, ever true. Amazing how at such times I randomly open the Bible and lo! its a timely word, speaking just directly to my situation and circumstances at the time. Now I know how powerful the word of God is because He breathed His breath heavily on the word so much that the Spirit of Him who inspired the word has also empowered it.

My sister, when was the last time you personal opened and studied a book of the Bible for yourself? Without it, the engine running your life can easily breakdown as the word is its fuel which the Holy Spirit helps you to drive with. 
Hear what Jesus said about His word: 
John 6:63 (NKJV)
"It is the Spirit who gives life; the flesh profits nothing. The words that I speak to you are spirit, and they are life."

These feelings of dryness and emptiness can only be conquered by the inspired spirit birth word of God. You may listen to motivational speakers telling you all is well, you can be whoever you want to be and so on... But you know how you truly feel inside. You know what it feels like when the hype is gone and you are by yourself alone in the four corners of your room without anyone to share with. 

Sisters! that is when God is saying 'HERE I AM WAITING'. He further said in:
Jeremiah 29:12-13 (NKJV)
"Then you will call upon Me and go and pray to Me, and I will listen to you. 13 And you will seek Me and find Me, when you search for Me with all your heart."

The truth for victorious Christian living is in the word. If you do not know the word, how will you resist when that voice comes to get you down. 
It is ok and helpful to listen to Christian music, preachers and programmes, and also profitable to read Christian books. But the place of the Bible is unequalled by any other resources. That was why satan could not stand against Jesus when Jesus answered back with " It is written............." 
Until you know what is written concerning you, you are not able to spiritually fight for your right.

You may have been through or still going through terrible times right now, you may be facing attacks at work, or in your finances, you may even dread opening your mails or answering your calls due to outstandings and other stuffs going on. This is God trying to help you get rid of few little things here and there because He is moving you forward. In the midst of many bad news, God's word always speak of hope and assurance of divine help and intervention.

I have tried Him and I have found Him so faithful to His words.
God is very creative and loves to surprise us His children. You will be amazed what He is able to make out of this present situation you are battling with. One thing I found Him do always is never going against His word to show us love and mercy. 

You need to get to know your Father. You need to get acquainted with His word so that you are able to recognize His voice.

David said: 
"I would have lost heart, unless I had believed that I would see the goodness of the LORD In the land of the living." Psalm 27:13(NKJV)

My beloved, do not lose heart, you too will see the goodness of the Lord if you keep on trusting in Him and in His word.

Which book of the Bible are you planning to study this new month of October? May you find the word for you at this very season of your life as you read His word and meditate on it in Jesus name.

GOD! MY BIOLOGICAL CLOCK IS TICKING FAST

Sue had just visited her Mum; it was her 46^th birthday, fully single, never been married and no children. Her mum called her into her bedroom and began to sob profusely saying ‘hurry up my daughter, find anybody and give me grandchildren, I want to carry your own children before I die.’ Sue stormed out of the room, crying. She saw it coming; it has become her mother’s routine since her 35^th birthday. Her day which started with strong hope in God’s word and a few songs of praise for a preserved life has just been ruined by her mother’s sympathetic concerns.

Science has tried to convince us that a woman only has a few fertile years in her life; from after puberty, until about age 40. After that, it's harder and more dangerous to have children. Once a woman is in her late 30's, early 40's, her "biological clock" is ticking, because time's running out on her possibilty of having children. Many women have been claimed to have entered their menopausorial stage as early as age 40-45. The female fertility is said to be in decline as hence decreases the probability of getting pregnant.

This is so true of a typical modern woman but not true of a Biblical woman. Going by modern understanding of productivity, Child bearing is no longer possible after certain age. The signs are always obviously visible both medically and psychologically. Nearing these ages attracts the fear of not being able to have children hence the thought of adoption. (I am not against adopting children and not only single but married women do adopt). There is the very natural tendency to want to give up hope on any likelyhood of marriage or having children

The Biblical woman need not be afraid of her biological clock. She has a God who made her and the clock. She has Him, God who has sole authority over the chimes. The God who once came to Sarah of over 90years, made her conceive and give birth in her old age without medical complications. He did same for these other women in their older years after a long wait: Rebecca, Elizabeth, Hannah etc. 

One thing that was common to these women is that all their lateness and delays brought forth children of destiny; Children who later became very important personalities in the history of mankind. Children who even today’s world and history can never ignore.

You have to be intentional about viewing yourself as a Biblical woman whose God is never limited by Biological Clock. Whenever those thoughts or questions come about your Biological clock, be quick and confident to say that you are a Biblical Woman; you are not a scientifically modified woman.

THE JUST SHALL LIVE BY FAITH !!!

OBSERVE THE SEASON

“To everything there is a season, a time for every purpose under heaven….” Eccle.3:1(NIV)

The Lord brought an event to mind as I began to write this article. Sometimes in 1988, in college, I had attended a friend’s birthday party. Suddenly, I started feeling like I should leave this party. I still remember vividly how I went out twice and came back in to the house where all my friends were. 
I asked a few if we could leave but they said ‘not yet’. I became really restless. I was enjoying it too. So, I suppressed the thought of leaving the party for the need to remain and party on, mainly because my friends were still there and I thought a few guys there were winking at me. I wanted to enjoy a bit more of the attention. 

Not long after this, the nudging to leave started again but before I could say jack, guys were breaking bottles, fights and fists were raging, we were scrambling for safety. It all became messy and I escaped by whisker from being bottle-stabbed. It was a nightmare, I hate to remember it but the memory is still as fresh as the day it happened.


I had not given my life to Christ at the time, yet God was still able to forewarn me of an impending danger. He cared so much for me that He wanted to prevent me from being at the party before the scuffle began. I didn’t know His voice; I couldn’t tell it was Him. The season of enjoyment and merriment was soon to be over and I didn’t know; I stayed on. Glory be to God who preserved my life.


When we fail to observe the season, we linger on too much in places, relationship or with people that we miss the time when our honour/life/testimony or integrity should have been preserved. Even in the face of obvious warnings, signs and doubtful convictions, we still hang on in there. 
Especially in relationships, the handwriting is written in bold that this is going no where, what do we do? We stay in, waiting to work things out, trying to fix the life of an adult for him and volunteering to be his mother. We try everything possible to keep ourselves hopeful even in the face of a hopeless situation. Isn’t it time we moved?


A lady stayed on in her job for over 15years, fifteen frustrating years, she remained in the job that stole her joy away and left her unhappy so many times. One day, she woke up and felt it was time she moved on. That was her season. She knew it, grabbed it and used it. From her baking for special occasions and children’s model toy cakes, she made in a year what she couldn’t earn in fifteen years of a paid job. She came off and launched into a new adventure just at the right time. 


Have a look at the passage and see for yourself what season you are in presently and what season you should embrace right now. Pray and ask God for the grace to discern correctly and take the bold step to switch into the right season of your life.
We often take a cursory look at Ecclesiastes 3:1-8, I think it is time we took a deeper dive into the meaning and application of these scriptures. This will reveal to us the emphasis that God has placed on us knowing and observing times and seasons. 


“There is a time for everything,
and a season for every activity under the heavens:
2 a time to be born and a time to die,
a time to plant and a time to uproot,
3 a time to kill and a time to heal,
a time to tear down and a time to build,
4 a time to weep and a time to laugh,
a time to mourn and a time to dance,
5 a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,
6 a time to search and a time to give up,
a time to keep and a time to throw away,
7 a time to tear and a time to mend,
a time to be silent and a time to speak,
8 a time to love and a time to hate,
a time for war and a time for peace.”

Understand the season you are in at the present moment, observe diligently the time and act appropriately. You may dial God in prayer for accurate observation and discernment of your season. 
Trust our Christ Jesus for every step you need to take all the way into your new season.
God bless you.

IT IS NOT SAFE SEX

Loving God! Through the saving grace and power of Christ Jesus, I pray for the spirit of understanding to fall upon this reader, your precious daughter as we share in spirit and in truth over this matter. Give clarity and understanding dear Lord and release courage to do what is right and honouring in Your sight Oh! Righteous God. Cast out every guilt and condemnation. Grant the faith to look up to you for cleansing and renew a right spirit within this life I pray in Jesus name. Amen.

Masturbation as you already know is sin. If it were not, the HolySpirit will not be convicting you. You are convicted because it grieves the Spirit in you. You are God's child. You are filled with the HolySpirit. Satan knows this, because Satan can not mess up with you spiritually, hence the attempt to mess up with your body. Doing this gives room for that accuser to have a charge against you and opens you up for moral condemnation and sexual oppression spiritually. You may have started having sex in your dreams already. So who are those strange men having sex with you? They are demons who came in when you opened the door by having sex with yourself.

That manner of sexual satisfaction is not ordained by God. It is Satan’s idea to keep us in rebellion. That's the trick. You are coming out of it in Jesus name. The blood of Jesus is capable of washing you off this sin and be renewed in Spirit.

Masturbation is full sexual act. It is you having sex with yourself. Having sex with oneself is an abomination in the eyes of God. 1Corinthians 6:18 says:
"Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body."

In the Old Testament, he charged the men not to have sexual discharges except in intercourse with woman. God says if a man discharges outside that, he should be cast out, he becomes unclean. (Leviticus15). In the New Testament He calls it sexual pervasion and that it can rob us of our place in His kingdom. Jude 1:6-8.

Activities that contribute to masturbation include the choice of films you watch, the type of music you listen to and the choice of websites you browse. It also includes the type of magazines/books you read and the type conversations/company you have/keep.

Satan knows well how to keep people in sin. Satan will make you feel it is a safer way out. It is NOT. The end of that road leads to destruction. This act drains you emotionally. Sex by God was designed for pleasure in marriage to be enjoyed by man and wife. I tell you, in a loving marriage relationship, it is great pleasure and an out of this world emotional experience and enjoyment.

Masturbating also drains mentally and psychologically. Placing your mental attitude to assume you are lusting after yourself. It opens the door to the spirit of immorality and its accompanying demons to have a home in you and mess you up emotionally. When the real experience comes after marriage, masturbation may rob you of all that is included in that marriage and eventually wreck that home when your spouse is unable to find satisfaction he is longing to have. Satan comes only to steal, kill and destroy.

Also, while using all your energy to bring your body into full sexual act, you are physically overstretched and this has led many to age very quickly and have also become wrinkled at an earlier age. Satan, the deceiver is also the destroyer. You are Christs’ and hence have become a slave unto righteousness. Sin in every form should no longer have dominion over you. You are no longer under the grip and hold of Satan. Take your liberty in Christ to mature yourself unto good works of righteousness. The Light in Christ will reveal all the works of men, whether evil or good. Whatever is done in secret shall also be revealed on the mountain top. (Matthew 10:26)

You have to be intentional about your Christian life. It is an unpopular road but the safest and the most peaceful when we walk with the Lord in the light of His word. He said, "Walk in the Spirit, and you will not fulfil the lusts of the flesh." (Galatians 5:16)

When King David in the Bible fell into this secret sin of immorality hear what he said "When my spirit was overwhelmed within me, Then You knew my path. In the way in which I walk, they have secretly set a snare for me.” (Psalm 142:3) When he started to lust after Bathsheba, Satan was quick to lay a snare for him.
That is why Paul said in Galatians 5:25 “If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit.”

How do I walk in the Spirit? You know the truth about what God desires of you; allow this truth to free you. 
Don't just sit down and pray that this behaviour should go away, as you pray for grace to overcome, work towards a new and repentant road in Christ. Take decisive action about the choice of films you watch, the type of music you listen to and the choice of websites you browse, the type of magazines you read and the type of conversations you have with your friends.

Whatever habit you are trying to kill, do not feed it! All of the above listed will feed your mind with how to engage in the act. Say No prayerfully and say No physically too. You will see changes as God’s HolySpirit will be by you to help you. 
The HolySpirit is your helper and counsellor. He is always there to remind you when you're going off. Take God at His word and speak to your desires when the emotions are building up again. I did just that. I told myself, I am not doing this today, not any more, flee from me.  Even the spirit behind masturbation is able to hear the word of God and it flees when you apply the Word against it.

What I found helpful was that I started to read the Bible meditatively and Satan fled. I was too busy in the WORD, there was no spare time to indulge or stray in my thoughts. My thoughts were brought to the obedience of Christ.

I hope this speaks volume to you my dear reader. That is why we are sisters in Christ. 

This is also included in the stuffs we should be talking about. That is why the HolySpirit has laid it on me to share this.

Take God at His word and receive your freedom from this day in Jesus name. You shall no longer have sex with yourself and risk the danger of destroying your temple where the Spirit of God dwells.

Masturbation is NOT safe sex. It is sex with yourself. It is sin.

God bless you.