DO NOT CONTINUE WHAT GOD HAS DISCONTINUED

Waiting to be married in itself is very very hard. It is both mentally and emotionally draining, but for the grace of God. 
However, the waiting that must never be condoned is hanging on a man or a dying relationship with the hope that with a little more patience, the man will change. 
The fact of the matter is we cannot make decisions on what we do not know. I say this because the fact that a person "could" change is not enough to support an ailing relationship. You don't know whether they will.
The hope that a person may grow spiritually is no reason to nurture a dying relationship. What you do not know may offer hope, but we ACT, in the moment, on what we do know.
If the decision is whether to continue with someone who continually draws you into sin—there is no decision. It may be a temporary stay or a permanent cessation, but the relationship needs SERIOUS HELP! This is the stuff of police reports—the person who is abusive but claims they "love" you. If they are drawing you into sin—THEY DO NOT LOVE YOU!
Not the way Love should LOVE, sacrificially, unselfishly.
If someone is not drawing you deeper into fellowship with the Lord, that person is a hindrance to running "the race marked out for [you]" (Heb. 12:1). If this seems harsh or exclusive—so be it. It may very well be that to live a life pleasing to the Lord you may need to be somewhat ruthless. If this is why you are still single, no apology is needed.
Some of us may have come from a broken home or an abusive childhood; you may have had or may never have had a serious relationship; you may have many unfulfilled goals and dreams. Some of us may even have it all well worked out yet feeling that we aren't worth it because we are not yet married.
Whatever “it” is in your life that you think you are missing, whatever “it” is that you think is holding you back, whatever “it” is that is your security blanket that you think may have left you incomplete, never hope that one man, just a man will fulfil all this longings. None but the Most High God.
A man without the fear of God, will add to the burdens you already have and the little hope that you are clinging unto may be taken off you. The reason many of us are left broken and shattered today is the error of placing our hope in man, a human like us, who may not even know how to sort himself out. Our youthful and single days are often burnt out chasing the creation and not the creator.
Here is the word of God:

Trust God from the bottom of your heart;
don’t try to figure out everything on your own.
Listen for God’s voice in everything you do, everywhere you go;
he’s the one who will keep you on track.
Don’t assume that you know it all.
Run to God! Run from evil!
Your body will glow with health,
your very bones will vibrate with life!
Honor God with everything you own;
give him the first and the best.
Your barns will burst,
your wine vats will brim over.
But don’t, dear friend, resent God’s discipline;
don’t sulk under his loving correction.
It’s the child he loves that God corrects;
a father’s delight is behind all this. Proverbs 3:5-12 (The Message)

THE TRULY SORTED ARE THOSE SETTLED BY JESUS CHRIST. WAIT ON HIM TO SORT YOU OUT. THOUGH HE DELAYS, HE WILL SURELY COME TO PERFECT ALL THAT CONCERNS YOU! YOUR LIFE IS NOT A GUESS WORK. GOD HAS A PLAN! COOPERATE WITH HIM.

If it is a godly man you are looking for (and I pray it is), expect the person you are dating to live up to this great charge. Call them to live up to this great charge. The truth is you may look back and thank God he hindered you. But first, if he is hindering you, you must be hindered. Accept not to forge ahead in your own strength. 
Wait on the Lord!

FLEE !

Have you noticed a married man trying to get close and desperately wanting to be friends with you? That may not be an issue, is it? No. It becomes an issue when he's bringing you into his emotional and matrimonial issues. This is the subtlest approach to luring you in, into his heart. 
Is he presenting a pathetic picture of his wife's inadequacies?, 
Does he think you are all he had wished for in a wife?
Does he flatter you with sweet words and considers you a good thinker?
Is he trying to make you a confidant?
Does he spare nothing when it comes to spending on you?
Does he crave for 'special' moments with you?
My darling sister, that man has family, he has brothers and sisters, he has pastors and friends, people who are able to counsel him and support him. NOT YOU!
That you are single does not make you an available option for those who are sick and tired of their wives.
Men of easy virtue will take advantage of single women who are desperate for affection. 
Satan knows how to position such destructive and distractive men around God's daughters at the verge of their breakthrough. 
You cannot afford to miss out on the beautiful plan of God that could have rewarded your years of waiting. 
No matter how justifying a relationship is to a married man, it is still adultery. 
His unfaithfulness to his wife will catch up with you and he'll run off with another woman once he's done, it's only a matter of time.
God hates divorce, so do not aid or encourage it. None of us should ever be the reason why homes should breakdown. 
A man must never use you as a reason for divorcing his wife.
Friendship, association or relationship with a married man must be discontinued at the first sign of emotional attachment.
Jesus is not unable to sympathise with our weakness, He actually promised to help us and give us grace to deal with it. (Hebrew 4:12-14)
Remember, we can hide from one another but not from the God who sees and knows all things.
If you are in one of such relationships, God will show you the escape route. He is ready to help. He will help. You are HIS daughter. 
YOU ARE LOVED BY HIM.

UNPROFITABLE ALLEGIANCES

I have been struggling with this issue since it was laid on my heart about a week ago. I pray the Spirit of the living God to interpret and make expressly clear the importance and urgency of this message as it applies to us in Jesus name.

It bothers on our unprofitable allegiances; Our strong support  for and loyalty to a particular group, persons or beliefs that does us no good and are actually non-beneficial to our spirit and soul.

Maintaining friendship with people who do not share your values, who are not looking in the same direction as you and do not aspire to reach the goal you want to pursue will always hold you down and drag you their way.
Once you are taken off your route, focus is lost and frustrations begins. unfortunately, it is your frustrations that give them an edge over you because while you sulk, they feel superior.

Sadly in that state of despair, you turn to the same vision-less people, who are stagnated and settled midway, for counsel and direction because they are your 'best buddies'.
You are useful to them, but they profit you nothing. Your time and space is used up by them to stir the thread of gossip in the name of gisting to justify their bitterness for the people they hate. They speak sharp words that turns you from the pursuit of progress because they can't stand you becoming better than them.

You watch them make little progress but always wonder why they don't reveal the secrets of their ways because they can judge you more intellectual to overtake them. These are 'friends' who always want to listen to your miseries and act in full pretence that they've got it altogether.
Sadly, these are the ones you call 'my best friends'. May be it is time you checked what truly defines a friend as 'best'.

It took me a long hard learned lesson to fully understand why JESUS CHRIST calls me friend. It is because there is none other who can be wholly true to me like HIM. When I became fully restored to Christ, He showed me people He wants me to be with. He connected us, placed His love on our hearts for each other and gave us a heavenly driven, pure, honest, sincere and helpful relationship.
Until then, I could not grasp what David meant in Psalm 1:1(MSG)
"How well God must like you—
    you don’t hang out at Sin Saloon,
    you don’t slink along Dead-End Road,
    you don’t go to Smart-Mouth College."

Whao!!! What a great reward for living obediently to that command. I so much love how The Message version of the Bible puts it. See what it says in verses 2-3 of Psalm 1:
"Instead you thrill to God’s Word,
    you chew on Scripture day and night.
You’re a tree replanted in Eden,
    bearing fresh fruit every month,
Never dropping a leaf,
    always in blossom."

Dear friend, do you fancy God replanting you? Do you fancy bearing fresh fruit every month? Do you dream of never dropping a leaf and always in blossom?
If your answer is 'YES', then my dearest, you have to checkout from those unprofitable allegiances, Sin Saloons, Dead-end Roads and drop out of that Smart-Mouth College.
These are places where the blessings and glory of God can never rain down but such as speaks of retardation, frustrations and regrets. It may still be tasting sweet but its end will be very bitter indeed.

Its the start of a new year, I plead that you may pray to God to direct and connect you   with people who are friends with His Son Jesus and can be true in their relationship with you.
Ask for grace to severe and disconnect from every unholy and ungodly allegiances that are slowing down the wheel of progress to your God given destiny.

Pardon my harshness but I love you this much.
God bless you.