I switched my phone on after the church service and there was a missed call from a strange number. Curiosity got the best of me as I decided to return the call. It was Claudia Jones (not real names). She has just been checked in for her EDD(Expected Delivery Date) this week. 'Are you married?' I asked her, to which she retorted '‘yes’'. I decided to probe further.
I asked her why she kept it all quiet and she answered “Actually sister Shade, I invited only fourteen people to my wedding, our parents and siblings. This was not an instruction from God or prophets/pastors, I just applied wisdom. I did pray about it and God gave me peace. He proposed to me and I knew immediately that he is my man. He doesn’t have half of the qualities I was looking for in a husband but he loves the Lord, so passionately I couldn’t fault him. He was not afraid to propose to me even when he knew with my job I could be earning three times his salary. He has very huge potentials ahead of him but has been less fortunate. If I had introduced him to my friends and the other people around me at the time, they would have discouraged me because it was obvious that I am ‘bigger’ than him in every respect. (Money, job, status, etc.)”
The above conversation reminded me of Adam. God saw that he needed a helper as there was none to help him. (Genesis 2:20-25) Adam needed a helper, which meant he couldn’t do all things by himself. He could not handle all that was needful for complete dominion over the garden without a helper. A rib was taken from his side to form a helper suitable for him. He was left incomplete. When God made the woman, he brought her to him and she completed him.
This foundational truth has been distorted today. No woman wants to have a man she could complete. We are all looking for a man who is already complete and would not need us. There will be no perfect marriage until you become the only person that can complete him. The truth is how many of us ladies are willing and ready to complete that man? Will you recognise his ‘missing rib’ as the one you are carrying and be able to yield it to him? Claudia yielded hers to complete her man. She is happily married and will soon put to bed.
Last week I was told the story of a very wealthy man whom his Personal Assistant and only adviser is the wife. Many marvel and some wonder why he is so loyal to his wife so much that mostly her advice becomes order. This was because the business idea was the man’s but the wife encouraged him to start it when she gave him all of her life savings.
I am not implying that we should go all out and marry just anybody, NO. What I am saying is that when he comes as a ‘nobody’, may you be able to recognise him and see yourself as that one person that God has ordained to complement him and love him into becoming ‘somebody’.
Helloooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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